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Are You A Demisexual ?

July 25 2018

What is a Demisexual ? Demisexuality is the cross between sexuality and asexuality. Experts describe demisexuality as the state of sexuality that is manifested through a persons reluctance to become sexually attracted to someone without first establishing strong emotional connection Signs that you probably are demisexual 1. You don't rush into relationships - you see your partner first and foremost as a good friend 2. You don't necessarily get turned on by the idea of sex - You see sex as a physical manifestation of something that is already existent 3. You find it more enticing to sleep together with someone than to make love/have sex - You love the idea of physical warmth, cuddling and slow intimacy over sex 4. The idea of a one night stand grosses you out - self explanatory 5. You find it difficult to understand your friends when it comes to sex and love - You don't understand your friends that get caught up in lustful and purely physical interpretations of what is supposed to be so much more 6. You don't find sex that important - I think, self explanatory 7. Personality turns you on more than looks - if the person does not establish intelligent conversation and show emotion, they are just not attractive to you 8. Liking someone to you is not a small thing to you, its everything - self explanatory 9. You don't shy away from commitment - you put your maximum in and give everything to your relationship . You find commitment as something which is inherent and you even see it as some sort of privilege to be with a person you can fully commit to 10. Quality conversations with your partner gives you a natural high - Intelligent conversation is better than sex for you 11. You don't really like flirting - You don't go searching for your soul mate in a bar etc, your relationships develop as a result of friendships that develop naturally 12. Porn is definitely not your thing - no mental connection my friends Your turn

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RHP User

7 years ago

Interesting. I haven't heard this name before. I can agree with most of those points.4, 11 & 12 are the ones that I don't. 1 & 8 only halfway. And 7, hmmm..yeah, most of the time. But, there's attractive and there's really effin' gorgeous. Nah, wait...they've gotta be interesting. I think, being honest with myself is my golden rule these days.

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RHP User

7 years ago

Hi, pretty much all that fits me very closely so total no surprise .s for myself. and strange as that maybe to some. and for most of my life, all that you have written is said in words ……. some thing I could not write, or express in a way that would show others and more so men because of my difference in being an intersexed female born ,of cause theres more as well. Males may think I,m useless in bed sexually and maybe I am at least I give it a go, sex or being sexual or trying to be I struggle with, I do express myself differently cant help that is how I,m hard wired, and how my body works . Thank you so much for writing that that's really …..LOVELY..... Thank You. That to me is just oh so ….WOW..... ...noeleena...

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RHP User

7 years ago

... definitely NOT "Demisexual" 'nough said.

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Katkat

7 years ago

Just not me at all. Spontaneous is my word. - Posted from rhpmobile

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RHP User

7 years ago

I tick some, and I don’t tick others.... *sigh* Now I’m trying to stuff myself into a box lol And that in itself isn’t an issue....I just hope she consented to it first 😂😂 - Posted from rhpmobile

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RHP User

7 years ago

We all do...🙄😮

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RHP User

7 years ago

Point 4: depends on the partner (see point 7)Point 5: no, it's friends who don't understand that there could be so much more !o)Point 10: gosh no! Sex is something to be done, not talked about !o)Point 12: it's just that most of it is so boring ... I don't like the demisexual thing, it's like you are half and others are full, like a sort of disability. You could also see it as being normally sexual and the others hypersexual !o)

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RHP User

7 years ago

Seriously who writes this crap. Some of it I found quite contradicktory. I have days when I am all or none. No box ever gonna fit me. 💋 - Posted from rhpmobile

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EarthQueen

7 years ago

Yes agree with both of you. Labelling something, I’m not a fan. My experience is that sexuality is fluid and ever changing. Can’t be neatly put into a box. - Posted from rhpmobile

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RHP User

7 years ago

The Confluxed Capacitor is what makes time travel possible..

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RHP User

7 years ago

I wouldn't know coz Ima not a gamer 😜 - Posted from rhpmobile

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RHP User

7 years ago

But occasionally yes to some in an inconsistent way (depends on umpteen variables) and I don't feel the need to put any energy to working that out. Interesting idea although quite restrictive. Sounds like it would be devoid of laughter and possibility. - Posted from rhpmobile

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RHP User

7 years ago

Just curious; Is that a list you made or took from some other source? Because it’s not one size fits all when it comes to human sexuality. As a couple we are both attracted to people with substance, character, intelligence and presence of charisma, instead of six pack abs, supermodel body etc. Beauty is pleasant to look at but we don’t necessarily find it attractive as a superficial thing. And even though we talk and make friends with people, very few ever makes it to our bed. We thick a lot of boxes in your list but we are both extremely sexual, as opposed to few lines in your list. I am curious who compiled that list. - Posted from rhpmobile

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RHP User

7 years ago

Does my youthful charm make me come across as a computer gamer? 😉 It was from the Back to the Future movies in the 80's. 😋

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RHP User

7 years ago

Satyrandnymph I did remember to quote the source, after I pressed send, my apologies The article was originally published in Psychology Today which I subscribe to but I’m not at work today so I couldn’t give you the issue or the number. Perhaps google it and it will come up ? Hope that helps if you wish to read the article in full

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technologic

7 years ago

I agree with points 2, 3 & 9 and STRONGLY agree with 7 & 10. But not to the extent of 'it's that or nothing at all' kind of way.. :-P I think it's helpful to understand another piece of one-self on our eternal journey of learning with these kind of lists. Thanks for sharing OP. - Posted from rhpmobile

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RHP User

7 years ago

What a load of crap - Posted from rhpmobile

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RHP User

7 years ago

I can relate to some points but not others.

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RHP User

7 years ago

1. Not enough data lol. 2. Depends on my hormones at the time/day of the week. 3. YES! But... it doesn't overrule my interest in sex. 4. Somewhat agree. Practicality. So much time and effort invested for just one meeting. Why? 5. Fence sitting. Via RHP; I'm open to all views. 6. Does that mean you/they don't masturbate? 7. Somewhat correct. Some physically attractive people can be complete assholes. Go figure. 9. I see it as a privilege to be able to spend any such time with anyone, just quietly :) 10. Correct. Would not date an airhead lol. 11. Insufficient data. Soulmate or equivalent can be found anywhere. Sometimes by your activity and sometimes pure luck. Flirting is often casual or tongue in cheek and not always related to a relationship prospect. 12. Mmm. Not everyone has access to real sexual contact with another, when they wish. Also as a man, our fantasies are more visual. Porn is something to pass the months / years / decades with sometimes. - Posted from rhpmobile

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