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Another "Penis Size " topic

April 17 2018

Just curious what to do if a guy has a smaller than average penis (flaccid and erect) and average erect length being 5.5" to 6.5", should he tell the woman that he has just met about his manhood size during conversation prior to any sexual activity, or should he just let it roll and see what her reaction will be once she has seen it. I am 12cm erect, i am not very proud of it, and it has been the main reason for me not to partake in any kind of activity where others are likely to see me naked, except nude swimming where i just find an area away from other people. When i was younger i had a few girls laugh and giggle about my size, and it hurts, and although my previous partner of 25 years loved my penis (i was her only lover) and she was able to orgasm, squirt, and enjoy sex, i still have this fear about other women seeing me naked. I am about to visit a female psychologist in a few weeks to talk about a bunch of relationship matters, and i want to talk to her about this issue because i now want to get out there and make some lifestyle changes and do some things that i have not done before because of this "Size" issue. Any Thoughts appreciated.

Comments

  • GezWouldGo

    GezWouldGo

    8 years ago

    👩‍🔬👩‍🔬👨‍🔬👨‍🔬

  • EarthQueen

    EarthQueen

    8 years ago

    There would be no need to bring it up in conversation? Take any advice with a grain of salt, everyone is different and that’s OK. Seems like you are making a good choice to talk to a professional about your worries as well. If you did want to make it larger for sex you could use a cock ring? But that’s something I would discuss with a partner, unless they are regular. Also, maybe thats counter active to just being happy with who you are as well? Good luck. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • 73bandit

    73bandit

    8 years ago

    Years ago I had 7 inches and 1 wrinkle now Ive got 7 wrinkles and 1 inch but damn Ive had fun wearing it down. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    At your listed age of 58, i would have thought you'd come to accept yourself by now However If YOU make a big deal out of something...... you're setting others up to also make a big deal out of it. And if they didn't, your psychological insecurity burden would cause you not to believe them anyway. You cant change it..... so.... learn how to give the most toe rattling oral, or learn how to use your fingers... or...... dont worry about it. Because the chances are.... your partners aren't.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    I’ve often wondered how some men might feel when they’re blatantly rejected or comments made about the size of their manhood. If a man were to reject a woman directly because of the size of her breasts there would be outrage! I’ve always said it’s not the size it’s how you use it 😉 A cliche I know. I once knew a boy who was blessed by every god imaginable but alas, unfortunately, just had no idea. He shall forever be remembered as Jack. Jack Hammer 🙄 🙇🏻‍♀️ I’m sad this creates insecurity for you. I’m glad you’re speaking to someone about it. I’m sure most women are not that shallow to disregard all that you have to offer. For most women, we appreciate the whole package 📦 upstairs and downstairs. You could work on your mouth game, massage, hedonistic pleasures, fisting and erotic experiences. Chin up! - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    58yo and still asking this question

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    This sounds like it is really bugging you OP, to the point of it sounding like it inhibits your life. I don't quite understand it myself, as other blokes here have already mentioned, this is just something you have and were born with - you have no control over it. You also mentioned that you had no problem pleasing your ex with what you have - you just have to replicate that with other women. You're probably doing the right thing by seeing a psychologist if it's still making you insecure after all these years.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    I used to have a friend years ago that only enjoyed smaller dicks. She had a small, tight vagina and found even an average size penis to be painful for her. I'm sure she isn't the only woman out there who prefers a smaller size. I'd rather be with a guy who is confident and kind with a smaller willy than a cocky asshole with a big schlong. Definitely talk it out with a psych if it's consuming your thoughts. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    I wouldn't let it bother you. You'll find more woman have insecurities about their bodies than any guy. And to get to the part of the naked naughtiness, there would have been a mutual attraction with pants on right?

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    1. There's a lot to sex other than just willy to pussy 2. Foreplay does deliver incredible results also 3. A nimble tongue and paying attention to her reactions is lots of fun 4. A smaller sized package is a great starting size for ladies wanting to try anal 5. You can buy hollow strap ons of all sizes to use on a woman (just be prepared that she might want to put it on and have a go also...fairs fair) 6. Make her laugh, make her feel relaxed, make her feel beautiful and you're connection will be a lot more than a big schlong ride 7. Be happy with who you are, both parties will like it - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    I understand that i should be over this crap by now, but given i am entering a new phase of my life at 60, it is very daunting, and because i have not had another person in over 25 years, i guess my confidence is getting the better of me, but i can't help it. I want to visit a swingers party as part of my new life, initially just to see what they are like as a non participant, unfortunately i can't locate any swingers clubs or parties that allow single men, so unless i find a female partner to go with, it seems this will never happen for me. The main reason for being here initially is to find a few ladies who i can chat with about various topics and things that i would like to try, and take it from there. I am quite healthy, and except from a bit of a "belly" that i have developed over the past 10 years or so (not from beer) the rest of me is normal, no fat anywhere else on the body, heart, lungs and cholesterol is all good, and my current weight is 90kg, due to the over sized belly, but my weight should be around 80kg, so i have just taken a membership with a local fitness club and will be going there with my Daughter twice a day to try and lose the belly, and to hopefully get some confidence back into my life, as i do realize that body image can play a role in finding the right person. Cheers

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    Quoting 'pinno' I understand that i should be over this crap by now, but given i am entering a new phase of my life at 60, it is very daunting, and because i have not had another person in over 25 years, i guess my confidence is getting the better of me, but i can't help it. I want to visit a swingers party as part of my new life, initially just to see what they are like as a non participant, unfortunately i can't locate any swingers clubs or parties that allow single men, so unless i find a female partner to go with, it seems this will never happen for me. The main reason for being here initially is to find a few ladies who i can chat with about various topics and things that i would like to try, and take it from there. I am quite healthy, and except from a bit of a "belly" that i have developed over the past 10 years or so (not from beer) the rest of me is normal, no fat anywhere else on the body, heart, lungs and cholesterol is all good, and my current weight is 90kg, due to the over sized belly, but my weight should be around 80kg, so i have just taken a membership with a local fitness club and will be going there with my Daughter twice a day to try and lose the belly, and to hopefully get some confidence back into my life, as i do realize that body image can play a role in finding the right person. Cheers Crikey Pinno, you're selling yourself like a horse mate.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    Ummm..who actually cares?

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    See my comments in the Hot Topics forum ...”secrets to mind blowing sex” If/when you get to the point of shedding clothes with another..... Read it several times, and if you must.... fake the mindset until you believe it.... and once you’re back on the horse, you won’t have to just believe it because you should be living it. Ok?! She will be relying on you and your desire for her to inspire her .... but she won’t feel it if you don’t have enough self esteem to admire your own sexual self 👍

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    Johnny Knoxville on his penis: "when girls look at my dick and ask, 'who are you going to pleasure with that?' I say, 'me...'" - Posted from rhpmobile

  • bonefide

    bonefide

    8 years ago

    New phase in your life, live it the way u wont, keep kicking goals mate. Remember craftsman never blames the tools. Happy travels Pino, keep us posted