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January 09 2010

helllo there :)   I have difficulty sometimes becuase I am a size 16 and I worry that it isnt desirable in this scene (I would be swinging from the trees into everycouples rooms if I thought different)   I lost 30kgs a couple of years ago, and am trying my darndest to lose more cos I want to feel like I can go to the 'invite only' swinging parties. I have put myself on hold, becuase I was in a bad car accident, so Im prob not going to 'come out' again till the Bollywood night at CI, just feeling like a blob :P   So, just want to know from single men and couples......what is considered attractive?

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    16 years ago

    Babe, everyone I've ever met is somewhat self conscious of aspects of their bodies when they're naked... especially in group situations.... except for me.. I'm a total narccisist. But what I really enjoy most about "truly kinky fuckers" is that they are very accepting of other people's kinks. What I mean is that "truly kinky fuckers" are as sexy as all get out even though their bodies may not be perfect in their own eyes... because they feel sexy about themselves and they're happy to make other people feel sexy about themselves too by complimenting other people for no other reward but a smile. If you go to events where the people are any differnt, then they arent sexy people.. they're truly ugly individuals... regardless of the outward appearance.   Hugs Stalky

  • RHP

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    16 years ago

    Naked female skin does it every time for me... plump is perfectly okay... so much better than skin and bones.

  • RHP

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    16 years ago

    Lmfao you crack me up eunuch. So much better than skin and bones! Omfg!!! I bet you say that to all the girls!! Hugs Stalky

  • RHP

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    16 years ago

    hey kinksncurves - don't worry about your looks... we all look less than the ken/barbie dolls of the world, blow people away with your smile, your eyes, your personality.  Looks to me are not the one and only thing and I know to most guys (although they won't admit it) that they'd normally like to play with someone fun and kinky vs a victoria secrets model... I mean heck - if you bend them the wrong way they might just break ;-)  (No offence to the victoria secrets models on the list... oh heck they won't chase me anyway..)   Be natural. Be yourself. Be funny Be adventurous And most of all - smile!!!!     Wayne

  • RHP

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    16 years ago

    Would be happy with a size 16 lady, myself included :)

  • RHP

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    16 years ago

    Kinksncurves   No woman should ask what is 'attractive' when it comes to their bodies. All that matters is what YOU think about yourself.   Size 16? So what. Regardless of your size, a sexy smile and a kick ass attitude will make you radiate. Self doubt is not a turn on.   If you look in the mirror and do no like what you see then it really does not matter what any of us has to say.   If your weight/shape is stopping you from doing what you want then CHANGE it.     Joanna

  • RHP

    RHP User

    16 years ago

    Apparently even Jen has imperfections lmfao.   Seriously though, someone who takes pride in their appearance, with a sexy attitude and smile makes dress sizes irrelevant.  We're simple creatures and concentrate on a ladies good points, it's only ladies that stare at their imperfections.

  • RHP

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    16 years ago

    Apparently even Jen has imperfections lmfao.   Seriously though, someone who takes pride in their appearance, with a sexy attitude and smile makes dress sizes irrelevant.  We're simple creatures and concentrate on a ladies good points, it's only ladies that stare at their imperfections.

  • RHP

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    16 years ago

    I love a big smile... That's the most attractive thing in a person (to me anyway). Especially when it's natural and genuine...   Happy and Positive = Sexy and Approachable

  • RHP

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    16 years ago

    Kinks and Curves   Hey babe, what makes a women sexy is her being confident about herself.Im sure you are sexy and Beautiful in many ways... Be yourself,thats sexy.....   Cheers

  • RHP

    RHP User

    16 years ago

    Hey kinksncurves - be proud of you body :)I'm a size 12-14 (16 depending on the shop lol) and have never had a problem finding willing partners.I'm quite tall (5'8) so also have has insecurities about my size and height esp compared to alot of the petite girls on the scene - but one thing it also IS good for is making you more comfirtable with your body.Smile and be proud of your curves, because if you get chatting to some girls im sure they will be emvious of your natural curves as you are of their natural skinnyness!Also Marilyn Monroe was a size 16 and shes one of the most famous sex symbols there is.xx

  • RHP

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    16 years ago

    well, kinksncurves, (with thanks to customer69 for the theme).......monday's smile is fair of face, tuesday's smile is   full of grace ,wednesday's smile has far to go , thursday's smile is full of woe , friday's smile is loving and   giving , saturday's smile works hard for a living , but the smile that is born on the sabbath is bonnie, bright,   good and gay .   Oh,shit, when I started this I knew where it was going......................yeah, that's you on Sunday!!!!

  • RHP

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    16 years ago

    well, that was my first real taste of the forum and I liked it! Thank you all so much, Im feeling good and feeling more open about it :P

  • amiira

    amiira

    16 years ago

    hey kinksncurves :)i'm also a tall, curvy girl and i have also gone through the 'petite-envy' stage - until i realised that, just like Jessi said, most of my petite friends were in fact jealous of my curves. i have accepted that i have a strong personality and a body to match, and i think guys (and other girls and couples) can really appreciate a girl who likes her body and doesn't give a fig about who doesn't. (remember, often they are just as insecure about their looks as we are, but it's even less socially acceptable for them to show it...)for me it often comes down to choosing clothes and fashions i am comfortable withi have no need or desire to conform with the latest ridiculousness showcased in Vogue or Harper's (in fact, i refuse to read them full stop) - i know i look awful in tights, so i don't wear them, even if everyone else is. instead, i always keep an eye out for 'classic' or timelessly cut pieces that i know suit my figure and my style. if i don't feel worth a million bucks when i try it on, i don't buy it, simple as that :) (well, or at least 100 000 bucks... otherwise i would only walk around in pink lingerie)so chin up! i want to see your eyes sparkle with mischief and joie-de-vivre, and you'll see, the guys will drop like flies. lv blinkyPS. besides, curves make doggy sooo much more fun.... ;P

  • RHP

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    16 years ago

    I love a woman who has curves. Size 16 is not big. I look for someone at least that size. I have never enjoyed sqrawny women, not enough to explore

  • RHP

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    16 years ago

    Quoting 'blinkyblueyes'PS. besides, curves make doggy sooo much more fun.... ;P I agreed with your post about fashion Blinky and then got all distracted when you mentioned doggy and saw that cheeky look in your profile pic.... Ummmm.. where was I,     I think the number one thing people with curves need to do is smile, accept what size you are and wear clothes that ACTUALLY FIT (and flatter).  There is nothing worse than a size 16 squeezing into a size 12 so she can tell everyone she's a size 12...  those 4 sizes need to go somewhere, so it turns those curves into what is best described as a sock packed full of peanuts.   End of lecture... carry on.

  • RHP

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    16 years ago

    Blinkublueeyes, another doggy reference, wow, now we're talking turkey, woof!! Only joking, back to the topic at hand. I was apprehensivewhen I first joined this site, now thanks to the help of people like stalky and mrs p, I have a new found confidence. Hang in there, the process gets easier as you come out of your shell;) cheers Michael

  • RHP

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    16 years ago

    Last night on 20 to 1 (yeh ok I admit it lol) the No1 sex symbol was Marilyn Monroe......a s16 as Jessi69Rob said.....   Kinksncurves.....for me personally I'd be more interested in your kinks lol but curves are awesome too...   You are getting great advice here from great people with terriffic life experience.....beliueve what you hear.....anyone who judges you or dislikes you because of your appearance is not worth worrying about sister......   Be who you are. Like who you are.   Do what makes you happy a long as it doesnt hurt anyone else.....   Beauty always was and still is now, in the eye of the beholder.....!!   (Am seriously loving those handcuffs and that corset btw !)   DoggyStyle

  • RHP

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    16 years ago

    In every fat person there is a skinny person trying to get out, in every skinny person there is a fat person trying to get in :-) Fat or small I dont care I take em all :-)   /\

  • RHP

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    16 years ago

    i love everyone on here. I wish people spoke so freely 'out there' I do, and will continue to do so. And shake my fat ass the whole way till it aint so fat no more!!!!!!!! xoxox :P