Am I doing something wrong?

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  There are currently 5338 men seeking women online and 703 women seeking men. That's approximately 5 men for each woman. Add in the factor that a lot of the men on here don't appear to know how to talk to women, throw in a sea of dic pics and appreciate that on here you'll struggle to get across the aspects of your personality that you can in real life.Don't take the lack of replies personally, if anything you're doing the right thing by going to the events and cutting out the middle man. As for the perfect message, I can't tell you what that is as it'll differ from one woman to the next drastically. Just try to be yourself in your first message so to attract someone similar to yourself who you'll click with.

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  AnnieWhichway

  8 years ago

  A template message which looks like it is, you will get generally get a template reply of fuck all.... Best you read the profile and pick out some details of things you may share interest in.... besides sex. Make them feel a little but special in that you read what they wrote rather than blaze away with your generic "" hi"

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  Your message is fine in a sense, it expresses interest, but what about the 'individual' you are contacting. Does it matter to you who you meet? Are there certain things/looks/personality/age/sexual stuff/insight into the soul of that person........I could go on. My point is I like to meet guys who are really into me, hit me with flattery 😉 and who have a genuine interest in me, not me just because I'm any female, or any cougar. So personalize it and make it genuine. Women can see clear through bullshit, we're good like that 😀 Your profile is good but I wasn't into the complicated talk. Life and love is complicated, well can be, or can be, but that's what makes it real and exciting. You're young so I understand you might not want a relationship, but stating you don't want complication, many women would think, okay fine I won't give you any complication, I'll move to the next profile. That's reality on here and in RL, women need intimacy, and men, how can it not be complicated to some degree. Sorry but it just sounds like you want your fun but want are you going to do for her? How are you going to make her special?

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  sorry for typos

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  lol make her 'feel' special. I give up 😀

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  But first mistake is saying the standard hey gorgeous. You know how many times females can get that? For me I immediately think brown noser 😁 and lose interest. I agree with Annie. Try be original and come up with something that proves you have read the profile. Make it easy for females to reply. Ask a couple questions. Save the compliments for later. Good luck - Posted from rhpmobile

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  DynamicCouple36

  8 years ago

  "Hi gorgeous, how are you? " is the problem. Don't address complete strangers as gorgeous, babe, hun, darling. If you do, then don't expect a positive response. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  The minute someone starts a message with "hi gorgeous/babe/sexy/hun" - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  Template messages are so inane and obvious and they definitely stimulate a template response of deleting them. It reads that you are not interested in me or my profile, and are just spamming. If you want to go down the template route, I would suggest amending t to be a little more personalized. Hello ProfileName, How are you? I noticed your profile and really enjoyed XYZ, and seeing how we are both looking for ABC (are you both?). I think I match what you are looking for, because of THIS REASON. I'd would love to chat further and see if we click.

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  Always hesitant to offer profile and message tips as what YOU write is an insight into your personality, intellect and social awareness So telling you what to write probably just corrupts how you truly present yourself But, you're a young man and maybe the mentoring spirit within me is feeling generous enough to offer some thoughts (but your target market - the ladies of RHP will be your best source of advice). Drop the overly flattering terms. Flattering a stranger with words like 'gorgeous' triggers the inherent defence mechanism if someone who feels you're only saying it because you want something. Also, your message doesn't confirm you've read and understood their profile with references to whatvshes written 'Seeing if we click' is such a throwaway line. You're not a clicker, she's not a clicker and you're not aiming to get together for some clicking. You're a real person... so is she (*see last point, below)... so even though you see a few photos and perhaps some written words.... always consider that it's a real living breathing person at the other end and seek to engage someone as if they're a real person... just as you would if they're right in front of you. And lastly, are you even sure you're messaging a real profile and not one if this sites mass excess of fakes?! Be a bit silly to expect a reply from a fake, wouldn't it. So live, learn, observe and pay attention. And remember..... there are far more available people outside the site than within it 😉 DG - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  No x at the end 👍🏻 save it to go with the compliments later - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  Guys, do NOT stop calling me babe or sexy. I absolutely love, it makes me feel sexy and young. I couldn't give a flying fuck what anyone else thinks of it, their loss, babe or sexy me all you like 😉 And there is a perfect example of how you need to make your own decisions, taking advice off here is fine to an extent, but don't put too much faith in specific things like that, what one doesn't like, the next will. On that note though, other pet names like hun yuck, make me want to throw up my breakfast 😏 choose to ignore that if you wish, just putting it out to the world lol Point is we are all very different. If I contact a guy, can't now but when I was a paid member, and didn't get a reply, I'd think he was married and a tyre kicker, attached and a tyre kicker, fake/faked a profile/might know me, could even be a relative, when you can't see faces who ever knows/real but not interested for whatever reason. Now that 'whatever reason' is of no interest to me because if they're not into me, I'm not into them, simple as that. Why isn't love that easy 😳 PommyFucker - How many genuine male profiles are there? I would guess about a quarter of those 👍

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  Quoting 'I_touch_myself2' Your message is fine in a sense, it expresses interest, but what about the 'individual' you are contacting. Does it matter to you who you meet? Are there certain things/looks/personality/age/sexual stuff/insight into the soul of that person........I could go on. My point is I like to meet guys who are really into me, hit me with flattery 😉 and who have a genuine interest in me, not me just because I'm any female, or any cougar. So personalize it and make it genuine. Women can see clear through bullshit, we're good like that 😀 Your profile is good but I wasn't into the complicated talk. Life and love is complicated, well can be, or can be, but that's what makes it real and exciting. You're young so I understand you might not want a relationship, but stating you don't want complication, many women would think, okay fine I won't give you any complication, I'll move to the next profile. That's reality on here and in RL, women need intimacy, and men, how can it not be complicated to some degree. Sorry but it just sounds like you want your fun but want are you going to do for her? How are you going to make her special? all the above - you nailed it.

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  Doesn't seem to be too personal to me.... - Posted from rhpmobile

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