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After orgasm etiquite
April 09 2011
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RHP User
15 years ago
I think you have to go with the vibe of the moment. For me......when you have both got your breath back or whatever, go and share an drink and then say goodbye and leave. Not really very complicated. The main thing would be to be courteous and respectful.
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RHP User
15 years ago
That quite a few of our modern misses round here, just want you to do the Wombat. Seems all a little cheap and tacky to me personally.Thats probably because I am more of a friends with benefit type of bloke, and I am probably inthe minority, as far as wanting more than just a quick f$#K.Cheers Nev
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RHP User
15 years ago
Well...... I go with the flow, I generally get on well with the person I have just shagged and just see how it all feels.... I find a nice shag or 2 or 3 or as many as he is up for :) takes a bit of time and then when we do part - I am still wanting for more..... If a guy lights my fire, once it is lit, I find it is hard to extinguish. So, stay for a week or at least until I am sated... and then come again.... quickly :) Lady xx
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RHP User
15 years ago
if there's no chance of a round 2 no need for cuddles, just get dressed and go. If she's of the same mindset then she'll likely do the same thing if at yours.If this is a 2nd, 3rd, 4th play/whatever, even if it's been several months in between visits, then personally, I quite like a bit of a snuggle and chat before regrouping and continuing on, or if it's night time, quite happy for the sleepover to occur (mainly because morning sex is awesome if I recall correctly).
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RHP User
15 years ago
Go with the vibe as Ticklush suggests. Surely you can tell whether she wants you to stay or get out! Personally, I prefer to see people I can hold a conversation with and those late night, post-coital chats and cuddles are wonderful. Anyway, nothing beats some great morning sex followed by brunch :) Then go home and sleep ;) Fun x
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RHP User
15 years ago
Even you want to see said sex partner again snuggle tell her how amazing it is. If on the other hand, nope not going there again, step one - Just bang away with out any care for her needs Step 2 - CUm Step 3 - get up wipe your dick on her curtains get dressed and leave Just remember if you met sex partner on RHP or other like site it will be the last fuck you ever have as news travels fast if step 3 is your angle. Personally a snuggle and tell her how amazing............. wait for it................................She was
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'CarlosSpicyWienr' That quite a few of our modern misses round here, just want you to do the Wombat. Seems all a little cheap and tacky to me personally. Thats probably because I am more of a friends with benefit type of bloke, and I am probably in the minority, as far as wanting more than just a quick f$#K. Cheers Nev I like to chat, cuddle, and then go back for more....you do the Wombat with me Nev and KJ isnt going to get all of you back in one peice... . Kisses Focus
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RHP User
15 years ago
I guess the more I think about it, my question relates more to the kind of person we choose to sleep with in the begining of the scenario. For instance, let's face it, if a person's hot, easy to get along with and appears to enjoy your company well then there's probably no need to hurry out the door. If, on the other hand, your 'friend' is more of a 'known associate', well then I suppose there's no harm in a hi-5 and a good-game slap on the bum while walking out the door. ...might skip your step 3 though Bobsol - like you said, bad news travels fast - and in my experience, no news is good news. lol
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RHP User
15 years ago
I have a couple of FWOB who were once FWB... we actually really were friends though so the transition was easy, we just stopped shagging but kept hanging out.
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RHP User
15 years ago
unless im travelling and am spending the weekend with a bloke fuck me and get out...iv been known to grab my clothes, get dressed while on the loo peeing, grab my shoes and be out the door before he realises its over why hang around...there are things to do, places to go, people to meet...cant sit around cuddling someone whose name you dont even know all day roxxy
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'TassieRose' unless im travelling and am spending the weekend with a bloke fuck me and get out...iv been known to grab my clothes, get dressed while on the loo peeing, grab my shoes and be out the door before he realises its over why hang around...there are things to do, places to go, people to meet...cant sit around cuddling someone whose name you dont even know all day roxxy I love a woman who knows what she wants! Good work Tassie! Not my cup of tea, but I like your style.!
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RHP User
15 years ago
Definitely don't do a wham bam thankyou maam.....I had friend who was great in sex, but when it was over, it was over... he got up and noted to me that it was over. The sex was great, but because of his attitude afterwards, I decided to drop him. A drink, a cuddle, a bit of a talk, something to show that you care a bit about the woman is always nice. Don't be rude. If she is at your place and its getting late, just tell her you have to wake up early in the morning and hint around... dont be rude and kick her out. If you are at her place, stay awhile, kiss, cuddle, talk , have a drink, whatever, and then say you have to get up early and should leave. Hmmm... do you really have to ask this question?
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'HotSexyChilli' Quoting 'Polar_Bear_Girl' I have a couple of FWOB who were once FWB... we actually really were friends though so the transition was easy, we just stopped shagging but kept hanging out. But if he still wants the shag is it doomed to failure??? One of my best friends (only went there twice) should have stayed as only a friend. I've learned my lesson not to shag a guy who I view primarily as a friend but I'm not prepared to walk away from this one. I still feel bad...Chilli xx Nah, it's not doomed to failure, just don't go there again and make it clear to him that it was fun, but just a one-off.If he has "deeper" feelings for you, that is, he wants more than just a shag, then you may not be able to hold onto the friendship, but that will need to be his decision.xx
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RHP User
15 years ago
I know for me...the days of having to ask or answer that question have past. Sure, it was a fun game while it lasted, but a couple of years ago something someone said to me started ringing in my ears and is just so true...everyone I meet in life will become a reason, a season or a lifetime. Put into perspective here...I can choose to have an emotional experience that I feel and express physically or simpy a physical experience that I try to justify emotionally. If it's the latter...I think I better check in with myself and try to figure out what fire I am really trying to feed. | I would much rather find a special somebody than roll around in the straw with any body...you know the one, that you can't wait to see and just devour each other then laugh as you argue about who is going to sleep in the wet spot when you take a bit of a nap together. After that, walking along the beach holding hands and watching the sunrise or sunset together or making a mess together in the kitchen would be a good start to building that fire all over again. Call it what you like...there many depths to a friendship and you never know what you really want until you find it. It's a bit like going shopping with a woman for nice shoes...it takes them a while to find a pair that you both like but you can have a lot of fun doing it. There is a lot to be said for the benefits of friends... | Quoting 'HotSexyChilli' Any tips on converting a FWB back into a Friend withOUT benefits???| I am probably the last person to ever tell anyone what to do or try...we are all far too unique to have someone else make the rules or set down a game plan for us but here is a thought? | If that person really is a friend and you tell them exactly what you want and why you need it...they will respect that and you will still have a friend. If not...then you haven't lost much as you never really had a friend to begin with anyway. Can't loose what you didn't have...pretty easy really, and just a bit of playground logic... | ...that even the kids would understand. | | Shhhh don't tell...if I go soft it only means I'm resting and can't wait for the next round!
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RHP User
15 years ago
.........I generally have a connection or spark with a FWB, so know a little about their quirks. Sometimes it will be a quickie & off we'll go or an overnighter where we get to have mind blowing sex , snuggles, chat & argue over the wet patch, but we're usually too exhaused to care. Then in the morning start all over again preferably with coffee & brunch in bed. In relation to your question, if its just a one off, after you've caught your breath, spoon her for a while, you'll know when she wants you to move. Give her a hug & kiss at the door, just to show you are a gentleman & go on your merry way. That way if either of you want to go for round 2, it was a nice 1st ending. Anyway hope that helps lol
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RHP User
15 years ago
people stay around long enough to fall asleep? Must be why I like the ones who duck off in their lunch break. They have to get back, so no chance of lingering.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Well, there go a few preconceptions!As for me, I try to have scouted out tea- and coffee-making supplies at some point so at the end I'm usually likely to ask if a beverage is desired and then get up to make one. I love to snuggle afterwards, I have to admit - although I'm maybe more happy to enjoy a night of kissing, cuddling and heavy petting than five minutes behind the cafe we just met in - but I appreciate that not everyone is into that. I've been with partners who just roll over and go to sleep. I've found as I've gotten older that I am more tired afterwards. No huge surprises there, ostensibly, but when it happens I really feel like I've not brought my best efforts to the activity. I've only had one regular partner who, quite frankly, used me but understood I was quite happy to be used. She would pick me up and we'd go drive and park somewhere and make out. (Love a good pash - again, a good pash and grope can go for hours quite happily...) Anyway, after a while she'd push my hand down her pants and I'd bring her off. She was a squirter - which she hadn't been aware of until the first time we'd done this - and she'd bring a towel and a face cloth: the towel to sit on (and sometimes she still soaked through to the seat) and the face cloth to bite down on. (One of those times I did feel I'd brought my best efforts along.)I don't think there's one perfect approach - it depends on your partner. Just don't be dishonest.- Adam
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RHP User
15 years ago
I like to know my partner first, not into wham bam, thankyou mam, so I want the cuddling and the early morning sex. However, if it happens and you dont feel comfortable get up and leave. But please say goodbye .
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RHP User
15 years ago
I agree with you on this one, meggsiesgirl!
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RHP User
15 years ago
Its amazing how different you feel after a 20min nap... personally unless it was awkward or obviously not 'right' to stay - I think theres nothing better than rousing for more through the night - and what a way to wake up in the morning...
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RHP User
15 years ago
theres an old saying "the door that squeaks loudest gets the most oil" or in other words "ask"
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RHP User
14 years ago
Well, will you look at that. Typical bloke. He cummed and now he has fucked off. Hmmm
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RHP User
14 years ago
Is it cummed or came?
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RHP User
14 years ago
He shot, then he shot through
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'D_G_T' He shot, then he shot through Many years ago there was a florist on Oxford Street in Sydney named 'Roots, Shoots and Leaves'...
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RHP User
14 years ago
Vidi Vici Veni...never could figure it out the other way, with the Veni before the rest? || I think I would rather leave the best for last.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'HotSexyChilli' Any tips on converting a FWB back into a Friend withOUT benefits??? I've only successfully done it once but I know it's always in the back of his mind.I think it might be easier to convert a romantic relationship into a friendship than to convert a friends with benefits into friendship. The stronger the friendship, the better the chance it'll survive once sex is taken out of the equation.As for your twice only good friend... good luck with that. It could go either way, but your best bet is to be straight and clear with him.
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