M66
A question for the gals.
May 12 2014
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RHP User
12 years ago
.... Free forums are entitled to free responses. She WANTS you to lead. She WANTS you to decide..... she WANTS you to be the MAN :-) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
He just prefers women called Baaaaabara:-) :-) :-) I enjoy telling my lovers what I like,what I love them to do to me,and what I would 'love to do to them:-) :-) :-) ...I ain't no starfish either...Isn't having glorious sex about two people.not just what one persons wants are xx Q
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RHP User
12 years ago
I don't want to be put on the spot in bed, I want it to flow, if you have conversed with me about sex, if you were listening, you know what I like. If I want to try something different, I will say so, if I want you to do something I will suggest it and I think you can guess what sort of mood I am in sexually by the foreplay. Being given instruction or having to give instruction during sex is such a turn off for me, and I abhor questions, puts me right off! Nothing worse than being in the enjoyment zone and I hear some mutter about something and I have to ask what they said because I didn't hear it over my moans and groans! eg, Him: Something, something,something...big dick, babe?, Me: What? Are you enjoying my fat cock? Me: I was until you interrupted!!
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MissBishere
12 years ago
What DG said... And occasionally I may tie you up for my enjoyment. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
I'm a bit with DG & Ralf on this one. I like my man to lead, and especially in the heat of the moment. That being said I've also been known to yell out "Do X now". But don't put me on the spot. On the other hand, out of bed or pillow talk, I'm far more open to discussing wants and desires and filthy fantasies I'd like fulfilled. Then I like my man to mull over that information and surprise me when he's ready. I appreciate that reversed too, I like a man to tell me his desires, I'll get to them when I'm psyched for it to be awesome.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Hate being put on the spot! Just let it flow... I often wonder if he thinks I'm not enjoying whatever is happening. If I want something I'll let you know.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Coriander' I'm a bit with DG & Ralf on this one. I like my man to lead, and especially in the heat of the moment. That being said I've also been known to yell out "Do X now". But don't put me on the spot. On the other hand, out of bed or pillow talk, I'm far more open to discussing wants and desires and filthy fantasies I'd like fulfilled. Then I like my man to mull over that information and surprise me when he's ready. I appreciate that reversed too, I like a man to tell me his desires, I'll get to them when I'm psyched for it to be awesome. I love the way you put that!
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RHP User
12 years ago
My body will tell him. If I don't like it I will tell him. My bodies response is the best language. It would feel a bit clinical discussing everything beforehand. Discovery is half the fun ;)
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madotara69
12 years ago
Some things can only be shown, not spoken. Mado Tara xx
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MsSuperFoxy
12 years ago
OP if you have to ask a woman "What do you want to do?" to me does not sound very confident. If a man said that to me...I'd be like WTF? The problem I see here is .......You should know what to do, by questioning her and putting it back onto the woman, it appears you are being passive and not confident in knowing what she likes or dislikes. When I say passive, I mean as in; not taking the initiative, lacks energy/spark or spunk. Take the imitative = gain empowerment, that in turn will give you more confidence. To me it's not who has the power or who is alpha in the bedroom, it's who has confidence. And the ability to empower each other. One shouldn't ask questions like "Do you love my dick in your mouth?" It's a turn off, when the dick is already in the mouth. It's like visiting the dentist and he asks questions and expects answers with a mouthful of dental instruments. Foxy
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RHP User
12 years ago
So be very careful. Some of the women here have a large bag of tricks.... or so I hear.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Ive been asked to expand a little... So Ive given it a bit of thought..... and I think this analogy will help answer. Have you ever watched a REALLY good movie.... with a great script, fantastic chemistry between the characters, intense action sequence, and the sex scene... well... amazing. NOW...... imagine right in the middle of that scene, the leading male stops.... turns to the camera and asks you..... ....."hows it going?, are you enjoying the film? Is it good? What would you like to see now? " How would that make you feel?! Right... it'd break the mood, kill the continuity and frankly, annoy the hell out of you. SO DONT DO IT!!!! hahahaha DG
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RHP User
12 years ago
He didn't actually say he asked mid naughty. I actually get what he means, ladies can be really shy about opening up about their desires with a lover as Shy alluded to before, it was hard at first but now she's open to it with practise. I was the same, I think it comes with sexual maturity and self confidence with a big pinch of trust mixed in. We are trained from birth to be quiet, ladylike, we're taught to shrink ourselves, cover our legs, be demure. It's hard once you've learnt this to then say "tie me up and clamp my nipples and fuck me up the arse whilst you spank me hard". Sorry Foxy I'll have to respectfully disagree. I don't think it indicates he is demure and lacks confidence. I think it says he is sensitive and curious and wants to know the answer so that he can fulfil her wishes. But agree with you and Ralf 100% - guys NEVER ask us if we love your dick *insert orifice here. Major turn off. So OP, maybe choose when and how you ask the question in a more considered manner. Maybe with leading questions, she may slowly find her voice.
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RHP User
12 years ago
The key part of "SexAsReligion's Opening Post is : "what would you like to do?" ... "like to do" ? A question asked before, not during. It could be a question on the lounge drinking coffee, a question while slowly undressing together, a question while laying side by side first touching each other naked. Unlike the "omnipotent cogniscients" before me, I'm not a mind reader. Nor do I expect my partner to be. I like to ask. I like to hear an answer. Next I like to hear "What would you like to do?"
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RHP User
12 years ago
But once you get to know me and I can trust you, then you'd better watch out. RAAAAWWR! And I'm with ralf and Coriander when in bed. Don't expect any replies from me in the middle of a naughty session. Yes, it is a turn off when I have to ask him to repeat himself, but I don't mind him talking dirty in my ear :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Yes! Totally agree with ralf74! Couldn't have said it better myself.
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madotara69
12 years ago
I've always, well not always but lot's of time merely suggested to have a root in the bottom, sometimes it's a no, sometimes a yes and often a maybe, oh OK is a wonderful treat. It's the gentleman thing too do. I have a habit with saying Oh my, this feels so fucking good, all in return is mmmmmmmmmmme too. Nothing wrong with a little pillow talk.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I love a vocal fuck as long as it is not something you are expecting a reply to. I do indeed enjoy hearing a man enjoying himself, I just don't want to be questioned about it! Make statements, be audible...that stuff is great because it gives us feedback as well. And a rock hard cock speaks volumes I wish guys would just go with it and be themselves. I think so many times, guys think they have to be some sort of porn star instead of reading and assessing the situation they are in. I think they put too much pressure on themselves to perform to some ideal that most women don't even like anyway. A combination of your own style and using your intuition to feel your partner is ideal from both sides. It seems sex is more like a race than an adventure, you can get to the end and feel ecstatic that you won or you can enjoy the ride and feel like you have accomplished something amazing.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Just lol - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
So.... What's your sister up to these days??? Lol :p Or... Can I stuff it in your arse??? Or... I think I'm in love with you ;) Which then leads to the grandure of the "Rodeo Root." And after using such awesome catch phrases you manage to hold on to her for 8 seconds.....YOU WIN!!! Hahaha Stir....stirring the pot since 2011 ;) - Posted from rhpmobile
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On_Safari
12 years ago
"Dirty talk is good I love a vocal fuck as long as it is not something you are expecting a reply to. I do indeed enjoy hearing a man enjoying himself, I just don't want to be questioned about it! Make statements, be audible...that stuff is great because it gives us feedback as well. And a rock hard cock speaks volumes I wish guys would just go with it and be themselves. I think so many times, guys think they have to be some sort of porn star instead of reading and assessing the situation they are in. I think they put too much pressure on themselves to perform to some ideal that most women don't even like anyway. A combination of your own style and using your intuition to feel your partner is ideal from both sides. It seems sex is more like a race than an adventure, you can get to the end and feel ecstatic that you won or you can enjoy the ride and feel like you have accomplished something amazing." SPOT ON GIRLFRIEND!! ~ Indy. 👍👍 most of the pleasure is getting there, the journey not just the destination.
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Lovinit28andKC72
12 years ago
Yes I agree with DG too, I want it to be spontaneous, fun, raw, exciting, erotic, and sexy..... I love a man that is exactly that "a man," he knows exactly what he wants, needs and it happens to be me........💋 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Personally, I fall more into the "organic" process of relying on the non-verbal interplay, and as Coriander points out, there is no implication of starting the night with a checklist. One interesting thing I once read was that a lot of women (*allegedly*) don't like having their nipples sucked, and that would surprise many guys (and perhaps a few gals also). The OP could be another case of damned if you do, damned if you don't.
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tamworthguy46
12 years ago
So many Sexy Ladies Agreeing with each other, they must be right !
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madotara69
12 years ago
Quoting 'tamworthguy46' So many Sexy Ladies Agreeing with each other, they must be right ! Treat the ladies right and it can be a very pleasant indeed
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'SexAsReligion' Personally, I fall more into the "organic" process of relying on the non-verbal interplay, and as Coriander points out, there is no implication of starting the night with a checklist. One interesting thing I once read was that a lot of women (*allegedly*) don't like having their nipples sucked, and that would surprise many guys (and perhaps a few gals also). The OP could be another case of damned if you do, damned if you don't. it depends on sensitivity, some ladies have very sensitive nipples. I wouldn't say it was a lot of women though. Psychologically some think it is a little close to breast feeding also so that be another factor but again, I wouldn't say it was a lot of women.
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RHP User
12 years ago
You hit the nail on the head Coriander. I couldn't agree more. the most important part of your response (Sexual Maturity) Having the ability to understand your partner comes with time but communication comes with maturity.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Sure, maturity can play a part.... but it's not essential. Logic would tell us that if a pair of randy teenagers have a fantastic sexual connection and experience the FIRST time they share sex, then the 'comes with time' has very little do do with that pleasant experience. And if it wasn't great, would anyone really want to persevere in the hope it would he... UNLESS there was real potential for greatness (or you have no other option)?! No. Knowledge, empathy, interest in others and being present is to my way if thinking what makes a good experience, and there's a greater chance that can come from maturity and experience, but it's not guaranteed either way. DG
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RHP User
12 years ago
There are very few randy teenage girls that could possibly voice their sexual desires to another randy teenage boy, not like what SAR is alluding to and CBR also. Firstly, she would be worried he'd tell his mates by sms within the hour.Secondly, she probably doesn't have a clue.Thirdly, as to your first post she wants her guy to lead.And, as a woman, she has been conditioned to be demure, especially around the male gender. We've known from an early age not to bruise your ego's. What if she asked for something that would shock & disgust him. There is no way she's taking that risk, that shit would be on Facebook in seconds. Maturity means a lot in the OP's question. PS. OP, I love my nipples sucked, but try and hoover the whole tit, um, nope.
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On_Safari
12 years ago
I like having mine licked until they pucker, blown on so they goosey up and then bitten.....just sayin'. Carry on.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'ralf74' I love a vocal fuck as long as it is not something you are expecting a reply to. I do indeed enjoy hearing a man enjoying himself, I just don't want to be questioned about it! Make statements, be audible...that stuff is great because it gives us feedback as well. And a rock hard cock speaks volumes I wish guys would just go with it and be themselves. I think so many times, guys think they have to be some sort of porn star instead of reading and assessing the situation they are in. I think they put too much pressure on themselves to perform to some ideal that most women don't even like anyway. A combination of your own style and using your intuition to feel your partner is ideal from both sides. It seems sex is more like a race than an adventure, you can get to the end and feel ecstatic that you won or you can enjoy the ride and feel like you have accomplished something amazing. I'm sure someone you've been speaking to was with me a few months ago... She said the above almost 'word for word'. Fortunately, I gave that "ideal' up when I was about 25 when I met someone very special and explained things to me from a woman's point of view. Since then, (30 years ago), I know (and feel) that I am ME and I only NEED to be ME and I get the feedback that a man likes to hear afterwards...Please, gentlemen, read this and absorb!!!
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RHP User
12 years ago
I agree with DG Maybe she is not confident enough to be putting forth suggestions. I don't unless the mood takes me. Ms S. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
I have often asked, sort of as a leading question, as I have had a few things I have wanted to try, and it was trying to gauge a reaction...I never seemed to get much of a response so I never went any further... that tactic backfired during an argument where i was accused of never wanting to try anything new, I know we expect guys to be mind readers sometimes ....so I bit the bullet, got some confidence, and a big glass of wine...and it went down a treat, no looking back now x
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RHP User
12 years ago
I love telling my guy what I want. I love initiating. I love spelling out to him in a phone call during the day what I plan to do to him that day. I also love telling him what to do to me when we are in bed.
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