M56
A Question of Safety
June 02 2010
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Tart_Du_Jour
16 years ago
I would always always meet them in a public place first. If they don't like that too bad. I only give my phone number once I have decided to meet them. Photos, it depends what you mean by intimate. I like to give people a clear idea of what I look like before I meet them. Honestly it usually takes me a while to decide to meet people in the first place. There are probably more steps I could take to ensure my safety but sadly I haven't told anyone I know I am on here to let them know who I intend to meet.
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RHP User
16 years ago
when i met my now ex boyfriend for the first time , we met in a bar and i took a couple of friends along just to be on the safe side, so that way i could have a way out if i needed one, . before we met we were talking on this site fr a few months and via normal email for a year before we finally met up,
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RHP User
16 years ago
What with a can of hairspray, a set of handcuffs and a ball gag and a riding crop... who are we kidding?..... it's us guys who need protection. Hugs Stalky
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RHP User
16 years ago
are you expecting us to tell you all our secrets single1 your a funny boy just be assured we are always safe and protected but the best thing is...we look out for each other roxxy xxx
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RHP User
16 years ago
I usually email then chat for a while first. Prefer to cam before meeting and ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYS in a public place first. I give someone all the details I know about the person before hand and get a phone call ten minutes into the date. Depending on the response I give is the action taken by the person ringing me. Of course, this can vary if someone I know and trust gives me a personal reference for the friend involved. Cheers guys.
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RHP User
16 years ago
I usually email then chat for a while first. Prefer to cam before meeting and ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYS in a public place first. I give someone all the details I know about the person before hand and get a phone call ten minutes into the date. Depending on the response I give is the action taken by the person ringing me. Of course, this can vary if someone I know and trust gives me a personal reference for the friend involved. Cheers guys.
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RHP User
16 years ago
there does seem to be a very close community on here that stick um UP for each other
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RHP User
16 years ago
When I was single I tried having "rules". Meet for coffee first at a coffee shop then chat on MSN, then SMS then meet etc. BUT.... things changed after a few months. I became more confident and relaxed and just went with the flow. I followed my gut instincts. Luckily, they've mostly been right. There is always risk, even if you have rules ! My only rule/recommendations would be: PLAY STRAIGHT, don't fuck the guy first time on drugs or drunk, wear shoes you can run in, stay fit, know some self defence and FOLLOW YOUR INSTINCTS ! I had some great times, the best times were when I was spontaneous. Hugs, Sat
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RHP User
16 years ago
Quoting 'stalky' What with a can of hairspray, a set of handcuffs and a ball gag and a riding crop... who are we kidding?..... it's us guys who need protection. Hugs Stalky I always bring a fire extinguisher (9kg Dry Powder - seems to cover most incidents I've had to date), safety glasses, a pocket knife, ear plugs, jar of tomato paste and a mop and bucket.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Quoting 'Baise_Moi'I would always always meet them in a public place first. If they don't like that too bad. I only give my phone number once I have decided to meet them. Photos, it depends what you mean by intimate. I like to give people a clear idea of what I look like before I meet them. Honestly it usually takes me a while to decide to meet people in the first place. There are probably more steps I could take to ensure my safety but sadly I haven't told anyone I know I am on here to let them know who I intend to meet. even if you dont know anyone to send a txt or call you during a "date"....do what i do.... i leave a sealed enverlope on the bench with everything i know about the person im meeting....name, handle on the site, phone number, email addy, address, where we are meeting, car....absolutely everything i know about him....i figger if something happens then they at least know where to start looking lol Andreweagle yeah this is a close community iv have noticed lately....forum buddies are a wonderful group xx roxxy xxx
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RHP User
16 years ago
There are several girls on RHP who have me discreetly attend their first few meetings and be close by the first time they go to a guys home. Generally I'll sit very quietly in the corner of the meeting place armed to the teeth listening on a microphone hidden on the girl. First sign of trouble and BAMMM!! Now work out which girls I look out for ;)
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RHP User
16 years ago
LOL roxxy if you are serious?? Id never go on another coffee meet in my life, that kind of precautionary measure means Im not listening to the voices in my head, ( you know the little ones that whisper axe murderer)Lol nah I way prefer to listen to instinct but always have a coffee/drink in a public place and so far the only time ive used my get out of jail free card was to stop me being bored to death!!!!!Is a screw really worth all the drama of self defense and flat shoes and paranoia and stress of having yr mum/sister/neighbour/police knowing all the details of yr sex life?i think not, each to their own tho ladies, and stalkies etal dev xxx
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Tart_Du_Jour
16 years ago
That's a REALLY good idea. Next time I meet someone I shall do that.
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RHP User
16 years ago
hahaha....Dev the enverlope has never been opened yet and as soon as i walk in the door it is ripped up and thrown out never to be seen by anyone lol OMG Ruggedly...you are tooo sweet you gorgeous man you...mwahh but i am wondering...do you tape the microphone to my chest while im standing topless in front of you, then put that hard raging.....mmmm sorry im back...well done Ruggedly xx roxxy xxx
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RHP User
16 years ago
Ive not been very active just yet but the experiences i have had i have always told a close friend exactly where im going what their name is their phone number and as with some of my other RHP members always go with your gut instinct. It very rarely proves you wrong but if it does Run like Shit
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RHP User
16 years ago
Quoting 'Ruggedly_Rugged'There are several girls on RHP who have me discreetly attend their first few meetings and be close by the first time they go to a guys home. Generally I'll sit very quietly in the corner of the meeting place armed to the teeth listening on a microphone hidden on the girl. First sign of trouble and BAMMM!! Now work out which girls I look out for ;) hey Rugged when you listen do you tape too ????? man that is just plain wierd and perverted but I bet you find out JUST WHAT WOMEN DO WANT
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RHP User
16 years ago
No wonder some women never have any success! 12 months of email and phone/sms ping pong prior to a meet.Enough clues left at home so even Inspector Clusoe could find your body.Going to the meet convinced the guy could be the next Jack the Ripper. (think its pretty much doomed right there)Turning up to the restaurant in your runners and track suit and wearing a wire.Agent 86 sitting at the next table and the Tactical Response Group outside in the van with their weapons locked and loaded.Sheeze anybody see anything wrong with this picture!So i am guessing nobody ever picks up a random at the pub/club either!Now for sure its wise to take some precaution, like meeting in a public space and making a Diary entry, but i reckon the odds of being killed in an Mva on the way to the date far outstrip the likeyhood that your date is an axe murder or rapist!Luckily for us guys some women will take a chance to meet.of the last three women i have met, 2 of them i was invited to their home.the other came to a mates place (on her own) to meet my mate, myself, another guy and kj.Cheers NevAll three women survived to tell the tale....as did i....lol
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RHP User
16 years ago
Quoting 'NevandKj' No wonder some women never have any success! Sheeze anybody see anything wrong with this picture! Now for sure its wise to take some precaution, like meeting in a public space and making a Diary entry, but i reckon the odds of being killed in an Mva on the way to the date far outstrip the likeyhood that your date is an axe murder or rapist! Cheers Nev All three women survived to tell the tale....as did i....lol I dunno Nev - your mva analogy is a bit like the old 'more people get killed by bee-stings than sharks' argument. If you play in the sharks kitchen, and steer clear of honey - you sway the odds towards a bitey bloody death. . I'm pretty sure playing in this sand pit (internet) exposes you to more weirdos than your average pub. Or even a good pub lol. And for some reason, being fucked in the head is becoming pretty commonplace. 1 - The sydney girl lured to her death on fb. 2 - Guy rapes schoolgirl in Melb and then sets fire to her house 3 - Guy stabs gf and sets fire to her car in local servo. 4 - The guy who texts roxxy offering her an encounter longer than 2 minutes AND $40. Having said that - if you follow your gut, youre probably swaying the odds in your favour - but it's when the throbbing overrules your gut that you put yourself at risk. It's also the reason I bring a fire extinguisher and mop and bucket to any playmeets.. but that's a different thread!
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RHP User
16 years ago
As an interesting asidethere are around 260 murders a year in Australia there are around 15000 rapes a year in Australia ( iam assuming these are only the reported ones)Australia is ranked No 3 in the world for Rapes on per capita basis. only behind SA and the Sechelles, interestingly the US ranks No 9.25% of sexual assualts involve children under 14yo.Australias Population 22,000,000You are far more likely to be raped or murdered by someone you know.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Come on over and sit down next time... I won't bight. :P Hugs stalky Quoting 'Ruggedly_Rugged'There are several girls on RHP who have me discreetly attend their first few meetings and be close by the first time they go to a guys home. Generally I'll sit very quietly in the corner of the meeting place armed to the teeth listening on a microphone hidden on the girl. First sign of trouble and BAMMM!! Now work out which girls I look out for ;)
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RHP User
16 years ago
So telling the guy i had never met and still dont know what he looks like, that I would leave the door unlocked and wait naked in bed wearing a blindfold was not safe ??....................made for a hell of an erotic encounter tho
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RHP User
16 years ago
the axe from the car, and make sure that all the blood stains have been removed...and as for friends....pfffffftttttttttttttttttt....who needs them...last one i set up to save me if needed...sent me a text 5 min before a meet to say that he was going to have a sleep and didn't want to be woken...so, now i chat for a while, msn or phone and then take a chance...after all...if ya don't have a go, you'll neva neva know....cheersjose...
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RHP User
16 years ago
Dont sit where he can see the exit.....and make sure the toilets are close to the exit. I have used this simple escape route once. Only because the person was nothing like his profile or pics and was coming on a bit too stong. But......on another note I met someone for the first time at my place with very little info about him. Turned out to be fantastic fun. My gut said go for it so I did. I guess we just have to trust our own instincts and hope for the best OR be a time wasting profile that everyone complains about.
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RHP User
16 years ago
If you are serious about protecting yourself , should you openly answer a post on a public forum about how you protect yourself and what safety measures you take ....... I take my partners and my own safety very seriously. Please reconsider telling everyone what you do to protect yourself here ! I know .... I know maybe overly protective and precautionary ..... even a little conspiracy theory like BUT being serious about your saftey is sensible. "Ruggedly" I am a personal safety NUT ..... but you my man are making me look just simply sane ! LOVING IT ! GO HARD ! LMFAO !!!!!
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RHP User
16 years ago
Quoting 'missbowpeek'So telling the guy i had never met and still dont know what he looks like, that I would leave the door unlocked and wait naked in bed wearing a blindfold was not safe ??....................made for a hell of an erotic encounter tho 'Missbowpeek" I've had my share of stranger encounters! Glad to know there are others who have thrown caution to the wind as I have. The spontaneity certainly does make for an erotic encounter! These days I play safe & count my lucky stars! Ruggedly...If I ever decide to throw caution to the wind again will you be my protector??? J xxx
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RHP User
16 years ago
risky business......but he had been thru plenty of safety checks....he just didnt know it !! I trust my own instincts....gut feelings........and wrists....LOL but seriously......safety is important......whilst remembering you are meeting...... people......people you potentially will share some very personal things with.(if their wrists are right) Ruggedly........could you just meet me ?? Ill monitor myself...... LOL well ill try bad miss b
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RHP User
16 years ago
Quoting 'missbowpeek'So telling the guy i had never met and still dont know what he looks like, that I would leave the door unlocked and wait naked in bed wearing a blindfold was not safe ??....................made for a hell of an erotic encounter tho I walked into the WRONG house... but hey - you neighbour was pretty darned hot ;-) hugs Wayne x
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RHP User
16 years ago
Quoting 'braedom' If you are serious about protecting yourself , should you openly answer a post on a public forum about how you protect yourself and what safety measures you take ....... I take my partners and my own safety very seriously. Please reconsider telling everyone what you do to protect yourself here ! I know .... I know maybe overly protective and precautionary ..... even a little conspiracy theory like BUT being serious about your saftey is sensible. "Ruggedly" I am a personal safety NUT ..... but you my man are making me look just simply sane ! LOVING IT ! GO HARD ! LMFAO !!!!! where ruggedly is based... you'd get an idea that he would be pretty good at personal safety... :-) hehe Wayne
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RHP User
16 years ago
Yes Mate I got that as well ......... Brae Again ..........PLEASE guys and gals for YOUR safety telling people your ways of protecting yourself here is like telling everyone here which pot plant you keep your spare key under !!
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